Why Do We Love MILF Porn?

You know what’s a good feeling? Being complimented on your physical appearance. It’s an immediate confidence boost in a culture rife with ways to make us feel insecure.

As a young boy, I was always told by my mentors (aka some grown dudes in my neighborhood) that complimenting an older woman on her appearance could very well make her day. Now granted, this was just some empty advice passed from one gent to another without any real thought. But I have yet to know an older woman not appreciate a genuine comment reminding her that she still has it.

Men like being complimented as well, and the women who typically compliment me are of the more ‘mature’ variety. Most of that is just a result of me primarily spending time with people older than me. I don’t have much commonality or comfort level with adults my age.

It partially explains my attraction to women in their mid-30s to -40s. Enough repeated exposure and eventually I gravitated toward women I found myself in consistent contact with. It’s no wonder I quickly leaned toward the likes of Lisa Ann, Ava Devine, and Linda Friday as I began watching porn a little over a decade ago.

At first I thought they merely fell into my liking for thick women with big breasts and round asses (which they do). But as I took more notice to my preferences in pornstars, the more obvious similarities between them finally dawned on me. I just liked looking at MILFs.


alexis fawx and cherie deville
Alexis Fawx (left) and Cherie Deville (right) are two of today’s more popular MILF pornstars, a growing niches amongst porn viewers. (pictures from Jules Jordan)

Aside from the term lesbian, terms related to ‘mom’ are the most searched on Pornhub, and have been for years. While ‘step mom’ is the most popular mom-related search (it’s really popular with young porn viewers, for some reason), ‘MILF’ isn’t far behind. It’s particularly popular in Texas and segments of the midwest and south because of course it would be.

But the ‘MILF’ niche isn’t just about watching older women or mothers have sex. That’s what the ‘Granny’ niche is for. ‘MILF’ is moreso about the attraction to women who are mature and sexually experienced.

That’s why not every MILF in porn is actually middle-aged or has children in real life. ‘MILF’ is really a mindset and attitude presented in front of the cameras. MILFs are portrayed as being more confident than their less-mature counterparts and more likely to initiate sex with the male character.

If porn is a reflection of it’s viewers’ fantasies and desires, ‘MILF’ porn speaks to our want for women who are hot and know it, practiced in the art of sex, and more than happy to give it to us. A MILF is essentially a porn fan’s dream. We not only get a woman who is beautiful but will take the pressure off of initiating sex and being experienced.

And if porn is indeed a reflection of us, it’s fascinating that most of the male actors in scenes involving MILFs are young. While it continues the story arc that mature women are ‘cougars’ preying on young men for sexual gratification, it also speaks to this idea that they make for a sound sexual match. The widely-held belief is that women reach a sexual peak in their 30s while raging hormones exist amongst the younger male population.

It’s not that older women are hypersexual. They may simply be slightly more sexual by virtue of having more experience, a better sense of what they want, or just getting in their last kicks of dick as they age. But if any of these three theories are true, that would obviously be appealing to a young guy that just sorely needs to stick his dick in something other than his hand.

There is also the thinking that MILFs may fulfill a deep desire that men have to be submissive to women. I wouldn’t know anything about that personally, but I do know it is a common male sexual fantasy. If anything, I do like the idea of a women making things easy on me in the pursuit of sex, and a women that is domineering in bed and unafraid to demand what she wants offers that.

In the end, I think the popularity of ‘MILF’ porn is similar to the growing popularity of ‘amateur’ porn in one simple respect: guys like to watch women who look more real and accessible. 98% of pornstars are absurdly attractive. But they can be so hot that we’re inclined to think we would have no shot with them, let alone actually run into them on a chance encounter.

The fantasies of some men involve women they would never see at the local grocery store or bar. But for others, especially those without much sexual experience, the idea of nailing a women you could conceivably meet in the neighborhood is a fantasy in itself, one that could (hopefully) come to fruition. We’ll never bump into a girl looking like August Ames, but Julia Ann could very well live right down the street and may even be in need of company.

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