Big dick porn and why size matters

The fact some men would search for porn based on the physical attributes of the male actor and not the female is weird on the surface. It’s easy to think men have some closet homosexuality they need to work out. And for all I know that could be true. But most of that searching comes down to visual appeal and living out the fantasy of something the overwhelming percentage of men do not possess.

According to Pornhub Insights, “Big Dick” was the sixth-most viewed category on Pornhub in 2016. It was the second-most viewed category among women and viewed 28% more often compared to men. In fact, women have been 46% more likely than men to search for videos involving big dicks.

Three of the top five searched male pornstars are known for their rather oversized anatomies. For Mandingo, Danny D, and Shane Diesel, their dicks are the selling point of any scene they are in. If you need to limit your searching to ensure you will see a woman get boned by the equivalent of a forearm or a long soda can, these are the men to search for.

One interesting note is the “Big Dick” category ranks lower now compared to 2015. Which isn’t to say the category isn’t popular, but rather some of the interest has waned a bit over the year. Some of that can be due to changes in what we presently find appealing in porn, or a lack of new actors and fresh content that would be a good fit for the category.

The fact that this is a popular search amongst women is going to be important to keep in mind later in this post. But for now, men still enjoy the fantasy of watching women getting thrusted by large dicks. As someone put it years ago, some men like the visual of women getting physically dominated.

Why is big dick porn popular?

You will be hard-pressed to find an average-sized dick in professionally produced porn. If anything, you will actually have an easier time seeing porn with below-average sizes if only for the humiliation aspect. Unless the porn is homemade, seeing penises between five and six inches doesn’t make for much of a fantasy.

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Image of pornographic male actor Shane Diesel, a popular pornstar in the “Big Dick” category of porn.

That is a part of porn’s value to the consumer: to provide a warped sense of sex education and to offer hyper-fantasy when reality isn’t fun enough. If we’re going to raise our dopamine levels through the roof, don’t do it with people no different than the consumer. Larger dicks, similar to breasts and butts, are more visually interesting.

While they may be more fun to watch, it has to be kept in mind that they are not the norm. Not every middle-aged woman is walking around with breasts like Milena Velba, and only a percentage of a percentage of men have a baby arm hanging from their lower abdomen. If porn also serves as unintentional sex education, and this “education” only involves large cocks, what messages are men getting?

Porn and size insecurity

We tend to forget that only 5% of men will have a penis over 6.3 inches. That means the 1-percenters of the world (and probably lower than that) are the men doing mainstream porn. Watch enough porn and we begin to think every man is supposed to have a footlong penis.

There are numerous reasons why men develop size insecurity, but I firmly believe pornography is one of the strongest. If we consume a lot of porn and see nothing but women fawning over large dicks, it is only natural that we begin to feel inadequate. The message being sent is simple: hot girls favor large dicks, and men with large dicks find sex to be more accessible.

Men love sex, especially when get it comes easy. But there is nothing telling them what to do in the 99% chance they don’t possess a cock big enough to attract women at first glance. We’re left with a bunch of men obsessed with having a bigger penis thinking it is a necessary prerequisite to attraction and sex.

That’s why there are so many sites and e-books dedicated to helping men achieve more length and girth. It’s easier to sell men on changing the physical dynamics of their penis than to help them strengthen and reconnect them with their anatomy. We’re not interested in improving sexual confidence and functionality. We just want to look like Lex Steele.

Our penises speak to our masculinity and are the most “male” body part we have. It’s the reason why socially we find ourselves in dick-measuring contests: having a larger penis somehow equates to being more of a man. Incidentally, porn communicates that their actors are more alpha than we are, thus we are not worthy of having sex with the likes of Dani Daniels and Annika Albrite.

The key to getting the security back and not obsessing over size isn’t necessarily to not watch porn (although it helps). Rather, it’s in understanding that porn is misleading. Men who appear in porn don’t operate like that in real life, and we are not built like them anyway. Size might matter for our visual fantasies, but it doesn’t matter nearly as much in the world outside of porn.

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